{"id":1177,"date":"2018-02-17T17:17:33","date_gmt":"2018-02-17T17:17:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.coachmentoring.co.uk\/articles\/?p=1177"},"modified":"2019-04-16T15:49:54","modified_gmt":"2019-04-16T14:49:54","slug":"using-mentoring-to-claim-the-tiara-you-deserve","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.coachmentoring.co.uk\/articles\/2018\/02\/using-mentoring-to-claim-the-tiara-you-deserve\/","title":{"rendered":"Use mentoring to claim the tiara you deserve!"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"ClaimTiara Syndrome is a term originally developed by Carol Grohlinger and Deborah Kolb and then used by Sheryl Sandberg in her book \u2018Lean in<\/a>\u2019. Sandberg feels that women often think they can be crowned with the tiara of success by keeping their heads down, working hard, over-preparing and passing all of their exams.<\/p>\n

What is \u201cTiara Syndrome\u201d?<\/h2>\n

Basically it is about being too modest and believing that working hard and diligence will get you promoted and paid well. As Carol Frohlinger says, “Women expect that if they keep doing their job well someone will notice them and place a\u00a0tiara\u00a0on their head.\u201d It is used to describe the professional modesty that many women have, which inhibits them \u2018shouting\u2019 about their abilities as much as their male colleagues. Hard work, diligence and modesty are all great virtues, however, those virtues can also prompt people to be too self-effacing and conflict-averse.\u00a0`Psychologist Cordelia Fine says such behaviour stems from socialisation, not innate differences between the sexes. Some men also suffer, just as many women may not, but similar to \u201cImposter Syndrome<\/a>\u201d it does appear to be more of a female behaviour.<\/p>\n

How is it manifested?<\/h2>\n

Tiara Syndrome is demonstrated by women not being as comfortable as their male counterparts with:<\/p>\n